The Comforts of Staying Stuck: Why We Hold On & How to Shift
Let’s be real for a moment.
You say you want change. You say you’re tired of feeling stuck. You say you’re ready for something more.
And yet… you’re still in the same place.
I say this with love, but let’s tell the truth and shame the devil—staying stuck is a choice. Not always a conscious one, but a choice, nonetheless. And before you get defensive, hear me out.
We don’t stay stuck because we’re lazy or incapable. We stay stuck because, in many ways, it serves us. It feels safer than the unknown. It gives us a way to avoid hard decisions, difficult emotions, and the risk of failure (or success).
But here’s the thing: There’s a cost to standing still.
Why We Stay Stuck (Even When We Say We Want More)
Staying stuck doesn’t happen by accident. It happens because, on some level, it meets a need. Here’s how:
1. Familiarity Feels Safer Than Freedom
You know this space. You know how to survive here. Even if it’s uncomfortable, it’s predictable. And when life has already thrown its share of loss, disappointment, and heartache your way, predictability can feel like relief.
2. It’s Easier to Dream Than to Do
Dreaming requires nothing from you. Action does. Moving forward means making choices, taking risks, and doing the work—even when it’s scary. And let’s be real, sometimes staying stuck feels easier than stepping into the unknown.
3. You’re Waiting for the ‘Right’ Moment
You tell yourself, I’ll move when I have more time. When I feel more ready. When the kids are grown. When the stars align. But waiting for the perfect moment is just another way of postponing your life.
4. There’s Comfort in the Story You’ve Been Telling
When you’ve spent years identifying as the one who was abandoned, the one who lost everything, the one who never got her shot—it can feel disorienting to let go of that story. Who would you be without it?
5. You’re Avoiding the Hardest Work of All—Healing
Moving forward means unpacking what’s really been holding you back. It means looking at the grief, the fear, the resentment, the disappointment—and choosing to release it. That’s not easy work. But staying stuck won’t save you from it.
The Hidden Cost of Staying Stuck
While staying in the same place might feel safe, it’s quietly stealing from you. The dreams you never pursue. The confidence that slowly fades. The joy that slips away. The life you could be living if only you were willing to move.
And before you know it, years have passed.
How to Start Moving (Without Overwhelming Yourself)
You don’t have to figure it all out today. You don’t have to make a drastic leap. But you do have to decide that you’re ready to shift. Here’s how to start:
✨ Get Honest About Where You Feel Stuck – No judgment, just awareness. Where in your life do you feel stagnant? Your career? Relationships? Healing from a loss? Start there.
✨ Ask a Different Question – Instead of “Why can’t I move forward?” ask, “What’s one small thing I can do today to shift?”
✨ Change Just One Routine – Take a different route home. Start your day with a new ritual. When you make small changes, you remind yourself that change is possible.
✨ Speak Life Over Your Future – Replace “I don’t know how” with “I am figuring it out.” Your words hold power.
✨ Take a ‘Tiny Brave’ Step – Say no when you mean it. Send the email. Make the call. Do one small, slightly uncomfortable thing that moves you forward.
✨ Get Support – You don’t have to do this alone. Sometimes, a conversation with the right person is the spark that reignites your path.
Are You Ready to Shift?
Beautiful, you were never meant to live life on pause. You are not here to just survive—you are here to thrive.
If you’re ready to stop circling the same mountain and start moving forward, I invite you to take a step. Whether that means having a conversation, making a decision, or simply choosing to believe that more is possible for you—your next chapter is waiting.
If you need a jumpstart, I’ve created a blueprint just for that! And it’s free!
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This isn’t another fluffy self-help guide. This is a step-by-step process to help you:
✔ Understand why you feel stuck
✔ Identify exactly what’s holding you back
✔ Release the emotional weight keeping you in the past
✔ Reconnect with what brings you joy
✔ Start taking powerful steps toward a future you love
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Because your next chapter isn’t waiting for you to be “ready.” It’s waiting for you to decide.
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And if you’re ready to go deeper, let’s talk. You don’t have to do this alone.
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