Being Source

We are responsible for our suffering.  

WHAT?!?!?!  I know these words may seem like an affront at first but lend me your open mind for a moment.

We all have pain points and they can wreak havoc on our lives… if we let them. 

I believe our suffering is based on how we interpret what is being done and said to us.  Our various pain points are triggered by different circumstances that come up in our lives.  When we encounter those circumstances, we react based on what our minds tell us about what just happened.

One of my pain points is the fear of abandonment and there have been more than a few occasions when life experiences have triggered it and resulted in suffering.  The internal dialogue has been along the lines of ‘I knew he would leave’, ‘No one cares about me’, ‘I’m alone in life’, etc.  These over generalized thoughts increased my suffering and stopped me in my tracks – trapped in the negativity of my thoughts.    

I found that by looking outside myself for love, validation, or the source of my joy or pain, I was giving away my power.  But if I instead acknowledge that my thoughts and beliefs are the source of joy and pain, I am able to make changes that work FOR me instead of AGAINST me. 

Our pain points skew our interpretations and if we take a deeper dive on understanding how and when they developed and finding the tools to help us heal, a shift can occur.  I know for me, the most significant relief from suffering has come in the acknowledgment and transition of looking within instead outside of myself for the source.  The power is ours to keep or give away… ‘“You had the power all along, my dear.”

Monet Cole