The Emotional Rollercoaster of Dealing with Special Days After Our Loved One Dies.

Special days and anniversaries are especially difficult after someone we love dies. Our reactions over time can run the gamut. You may want to sleep the day away or celebrate to honor it in our own special way. Whatever the case, my advice to my clients is to mark the calendar and be intentional. Also, let those closest to you know the days as well, so they can support you if needed.

Decide if and how you want to acknowledge death anniversaries, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, special times of the year, holidays, etc. Find your special ways of honoring your loved ones and the special days you shared.

There are also times we just forget. I remember the first time I forgot my mother’s death anniversary. I felt a mixture of guilt and relief. Guilt over forgetting the day she left this earth and relief to know that it came and went without weighing so heavy on my heart.

Whatever the case, whether you choose to celebrate or acknowledge the day, put some thought to it up front. And if instead, you’re ok with forgetting, that’s fine too!

From my heart to yours,

Monet