3 Signs You’re Still Grieving Your Last Relationship:

1.      You’re ramping up on short-term energy/emotion relieving behaviors - STERBs. Many of us use STERBs in an attempt to cover the feelings caused by unresolved grief. Some examples of these are alcohol, food, shopping, overworking and even exercise. STERBs can become habitual and will overshadow the underlying issues we’re avoiding.  We become emotionally unavailable and less honest about or aware of our true emotions.  STERBs are mere distractions to the pain we’re experiencing.

 2.      You no longer trust your instincts or intuition when it comes to judging character. This distrust permeates your new relationships, and you’ll find yourself second guessing and doubting your potential partner’s intentions and worst of all your own.

 3.      You feel self-righteous about how things ended and hold him/her 100% responsible.  In the ending of a relationship, we can most likely take at the very least 1% of the responsibility.  We may have 0% responsibility in the cause of the breakup, but we are 100% responsible for how we react.  We can take ownership of our feelings, reactions and the actions we take OR we can hand over our power, choosing to remain in the resentment, anger and pain. 

 If you’d like some support while your heart heals, please send me an email at monet@poshlifeconsulting.

 From my heart to yours,

Monet Cole